What is a Memory Mala?

Traditionally, malas are Buddhist prayer garlands used during meditation consisting of 108 beads and 1 larger guru bead that closes the loop. Each smaller bead represents a breath, a mantra, and/or intention and is used to keep count while the guru bead represents the student-teacher relationship. You can read more about traditional malas here. I believe a mala can also be an object used to help a person connect to their higher power(s), guides, and/or intentions. A worry stone, a piece of jewelry, a totem, a baseball cap, a rosary, anything we can physically touch and carry that helps remind us of who we are and what our purpose is, can be considered a mala. Have you ever found yourself touching your wedding ring when you lovingly think of your spouse or grabbing your favorite blanket that your grandma crocheted when things get rough because it reminds you that you are loved? These gifts remind us of who we are in the world and connect us to a higher power through unconditional love.

Each mala I create has a story and a purpose. Sometimes it’s a tribute to a loved one with birthstones, sometimes a healing journey with stones to help physical, mental, and/or spiritual ailments, a business venture that uses stones to attract abundance, or for guidance in manifesting a future unseen. With life as busy as it is and being bombarded with information from computers, phones, TV, family and friends…. sitting quietly can be hard to do; much less putting that stuff away to sit purposely and not think about anything or only one thing. For me, setting aside time to meditate is difficult and so I find myself communicating with my higher powers during my day doing everyday things. Usually, while I’m driving or going for a walk, taking a shower or even while I vacuum. Wearing a mala on a daily basis helps me to focus on my goals, plus I get to carry multiple healing crystals with me and harness their power in every day situations. You can read of a particular time when a mala called to me right before a stressful encounter here. Depending on each design and crystal combination, I rely on them to remind me of my intentions when my mind isn’t focused and I will often ask for guidance in certain situations. I recently decided to work more closely with my guides and wanted to create a mala that would remind me of this goal. I knew this would be a perfect opportunity to explain how a mala works for me and to show the creation process. Mehiel2

In 2017, I had an experience that encouraged me to find out more about myself in a more Universal way and I started learning about numerology, astrology, soul groups, and guides. I found that being born on February 8th awarded me the guidance of “The Vivifying God” and after some research, which there is very little of, I realized I was much like others described in his group. It’s taken over a year to be comfortable enough in my role to actually start working with this guide. I created this particular mala to help me connect to my Guardian Angel Mehiel. According to the information I found, the color that best connects to him is brown and the best stone for this is Tiger’s Eye. Some of my favorite mala’s I’ve created for others have been using mixed Tiger’s Eye and I was super excited to finally be creating one for myself, especially one so important.

The next best stone to connect with him is Smokey Quartz. Unfortunately, I didn’t have any on hand and couldn’t find any in the local bead stores. I wanted to complete this mala in time for the new moon in Scorpio so I could charge it with new intentions and I definitely didn’t have time to order any since I only had one day to put it together. I opted instead for another brown stone I had on hand and had been wanting to use for myself anyway, brown banded Jasper. Along with it’s metaphysical properties it’s also a valuable conduit to Mehiel. As I looked for the remaining stones to use I became aware that I hadn’t worked with Onyx very much and Rose Quartz was nowhere in my arsenal. When a mala starts to be realized I can go through as many as different stones and combinations as there are stars in the sky, so creating the perfect infusion can be time consuming, especially when I’m researching their properties. I’ve been known to miss more than one new or full moon or a special event but thankfully, if I can let go of my perfectionism, the design can come together quickly and quite nicely. Such as the case with Mehiel.

I knew I wanted this mala to remind me that I have an angel working with me, not just any angel, but one that has been willingly assigned to look out for me and help me along in my path. I chose the colors to represent him and the stones to amplify my intent with their metaphysical properties. Below is a list of the crystals and how each one is helping me to either remember my goal or accomplish it.

Yellow Tiger’s Eye – Focus and insight. Keen observation. Supports change, creativity, talent and abilities. Stimulating wealth. Reflects Spirit through actions

Blue Hawk’s Eye – Authoritative. Deeper insight and awareness. Increased sensory gifts. Align with cosmic forces for inspirational guidance.

Red Ox Eye – Contains Hematite, grounding. Courage, inner strength and self confidence. Enthusiasm, determination, and action.

Onyx – Powerful. Has a history of negative traits but with work and intent can banish grief and release physical and emotional wounds, drawing in happiness and good fortune. Retains energy and can hold physical memories. Centering and alignment to connect to higher powers for guidance. Can absorb from Universe the energies needed.

Brown Jasper – Beads and Guru Bead. Nurturer and healer. Courage and wisdom. Grants access to past lives for karmic healing. Connection to ancient past for retrieval of spiritual knowledge for use in this present to help heal humanity and the planet.

Rose Quartz – Unconditional love. Direct heart chakra. Giving and receiving. High spiritual attunement. Mothering crystal; nurturing of self. Forgiveness of past mistakes. Erasing primal imprints and replacing with and accepting infinite source of love from self. Higher consciousness.

Pietersite – Discharges negative energy and clears the aura. Increases personal will and intuitive abilities. Brings up internalized feelings and conflicts to begin the healing process and move towards highest good. Clears stagnant energy. Actionable will. Promotes truth and honesty. Keys to the Kingdom of Heaven. Third Eye stimulation. Shamanic journeying. You will see something in a new light.

Rainbow Moonstone on a white and brown tassel – Connects us to Divine inspiration. Increased synchronicity. Intuition and insight. Clarity and Crown Chakra. Strong connection to the spiritual world. Fertility and moon cycles.  The tassel can represent many things and my personal mantra for this particular one is “Thank you for the guidance and protection as I am birthed into a new light”. The white in the tassel represents a new beginning in my journey with clarity and a blank slate; while the brown represents Mehiel and his many gifts as my guardian.

I literally strung this mala during the night of the new moon and set it outside, with the rest of my crystals, for the remainder of the morning to charge. I grabbed about four hours of sleep and was excited to see what the day would bring while I wore it. I wasn’t disappointed as several messages came through that day with 333. A license plate, a Facebook post, a verbal conversation, and the time on the microwave, all indicating I’m on the right track and I am being helped. I have to admit though, it’s a powerful combination and I had a few emotional moments during the day. I have to face some fears about money and health and those came to the front quickly, all of which are part of the healing process. I have to remember that I am in control of my thoughts and these feelings need to be addressed so I can move forward in my evolution; but I have to face my fears and handle them differently than I have in the past. As I continue to work with Mehiel I will wear it when it feels right or when I am meditating and looking for specific answers and guidance from my angel.

Hopefully I’ve explained how a mala can become a tool to help you remember your goals and intentions while connecting to your higher self, powers, guides, and loved ones. Memory Malas can also become heirlooms for loved ones. As we see with Onyx, some crystals can carry the memory of the wearer along with lessons and messages. Passing on our love is one way to stay connected even after we’ve departed this earth. I personally enjoy other people holding my mala’s and letting them feel their intensity but it’s important to remember to smudge/clean/charge your stones to keep them healthy and pure with the essence of your highest and best self. Releasing negative energy is an important part of keeping your tools sharp and stones can pick up lots of baggage that we don’t need or want to carry forward with us. Visit the website to see how other crystal combinations help me and my clients or use my Contact page to reach me with any questions.


|Peace and Love









Shell Shock

ShellShock2_wmI bought Hematite quite awhile ago thinking it would fit easily into one of the many mala’s I’m creating. Never really finding the right combination I had un-strung them in to a bowl and put them to the side. While working on another piece I had the Natural Shell out and wound up putting a few beads in with the Hematite. I instantly fell in love.

I quickly finished up the other mala I was working on and began this one. Beautiful blue against the chrome color of Hematite adds a striking contrast.

It took me awhile to start using it and the first time I wore it it felt super heavy. At first, I didn’t like the weight around my neck and I’ve worn it on my wrist a couple of times. It wasn’t until I was going in to a stressful situation that it called to me.

Having to confront a family member is always hard, especially when they are close and you want to maintain your relationship. You know in order for you both to grow something’s gotta give and it’s not likely the other person will be the first person to offer an olive branch, especially since they don’t realize they are hurting you. As I thought of what I was preparing to do, I was attracted to this particular mala and remembered what the properties were. Hematite is used to absorb toxic emotions and clear away negative feelings while helping to ground me and keep me balanced. I also thought natural shell in blue would help keep my words flowing with unconditional love and understanding. Blue represents the Throat Chakra and helps me to open up and remember to use a higher quality of language so that the other person hears the true message coming from my heart.

As I was putting it on I asked my guides to create a perfect situation so that my family member and I could address my issues and both come out feeling better about the situation and our relationship. I had already considered cutting ties and knew from previous experience that wasn’t the answer. I was looking for a way to maintain the relationship without the toxicity and constantly compromising my heart. It was 10 minutes in to my visit when an opportunity presented itself. I could have easily dismissed it and continued to play victim but I remembered my prayer earlier in the morning. Instantly I felt my mala around my neck and somehow found the courage to start a conversation of different sorts.

After many much needed tears and a long hug I think we both felt much better about the situation. The constant theme with this mala is “In order to make good choices, people need to have good information.” And in order for the other person to have good information on which to base their choice, I must speak honestly and from the heart. I figured if I speak my truth and she doesn’t respond with love, then I will have to decide if I want to cut ties again. If she does respond with love, then I will be open to receiving what ever message she is trying to get across and adjust accordingly.

Since that experience went so well, I now use this as my power mala. My go-to in tough situations like funerals and heavy family situations or tough conversations with strong emotions. If you’re a couples therapist, a caretaker, a public speaker, if you work with clients, or work in the service industry… you might want to add these crystals to your arsenal. They have helped me out of some very emotional conversations to see past the ego’s and get to the true message. As always,

| Peace & Love


Below are links for the different types of stones used in the mala.

Black Jade Guru bead – It is balancing if certain members are dominant, clever with words or manipulative. Black Jade lends the courage and fortitude needed to examine one’s own negativity and its source, and to “face the shadow self.”

Blue Shell  Abalone healing is especially helpful for those going through emotional turmoil or those having a hard time dealing with a situation in a relationship. Shell promotes cooperation between the self and others, as well as within the self.  It provides cohesive energy for groups.

Hematite This stone’s energy is earthy, and it is one of the best stones that you can use to harness the power of the element of earth to lend you strength and dispel negativity.




Mookite Power

There are some days when I walk in to a bead store and certain stones will just call to me. This was the case with Mookite. I had visited our local store a few times before I decided to buy them and I was oh so excited to work with them.


Enamored with the different colors I quickly went on the search to find out more about this stone. One of the first places I visit is Energy Muse. I find their information quite extensive and Mookite did not disappoint.

My head is usually in the clouds and so working with stones that have a strong grounding effect is a nice change. I can say that while I was working on this piece, I absolutely found myself mellow. No drama was to be had around me and it was nice to feel my feet on the ground.

The supporting stones are Carnelian and Onyx. The Guru bead is Tiger’s Eye.